Friday, May 8, 2009

What a day II

I was a bit shell shocked last night so I asked my boss for an annual day so I could take it easy and have a quiet day today.

I am very glad I did. Weather

I don’t know what the weather thing in my sidebar says whenever it is that you’re reading this but here is what it says right now.

Rory’s bio class is out of school all day today on a field trip to a local estuary to study the environment and collect samples for back in the lab. I hope they’ve cancelled it.

…and then the bad news.

For some reason last night it appears I rang the car accident woman’s husband on my own phone – I don’t know why, force of habit I guess. Anyway he rang me an hour ago to talk to me.

She died. He’s completely distraught. He wants to meet me though I’ve told him she didn’t say anything, she was incoherent. He was crying and then so was I – both sobbing. I said if he still wants to meet me after the funeral he should ring me again then. He said I should come to the funeral, that he’d let me know the details. I said no.  No way, that’s macabre. I did determine that they have no kids. She was younger than I thought; only 32.


  1. Oh, how tragic that she died, especially at that young age. That poor man. I'm sure he wants to meet with you just to thank you for what you did, and possibly find out any details at all that you can give him. If I were in his situation, I'd probably want to meet you, too. What a hard situation to be in. I hope you can get this worked out. Keep us posted. My heart goes out to you, and to both him and her. Hugs.

  2. That is bad news what happened and not a position I would like to be in especially as I am no good with emotions, even the wife says I have none. I don't think you should go to the funeral either as it was just coincidence that you were there when the accident happened.

    11C is not cold that is sun bathing weather.

  3. Oh Lord, Lou. I'm so sorry. I have some experience with this from my time as an EMT in California. Most of my work was done at the site of car accidents. Sorry you had to get so up close and personal with such a thing. For me it was different because that was my job.

    Hang in there. I think you did the right thing by staying clear of the young woman's husband and her funeral. The man needs to grieve with his family and friends, not with people who were at the scene. Not now anyway, maybe later, as you suggested.

  4. I'm glad to hear that you took the day off. An awful experience

  5. Oh, Lou. I am so sorry. I wish I could say more. I wish I could give you a hug and take you out for a drink. What a sad thing, an utter tragedy.

  6. So sorry to hear that Lou.
    Her poor husband is just trying to fill in the last minutes of her life.
    How horribly painful.


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